Couples Therapist: Why Your Brain Turns Your Partner Into An Enemy - Stan Tatkin

🎯 聽之前

A couples therapist explains how a threatened nervous system can turn a partner into an enemy in a few seconds. Practice the language of repair: pause, name the state, and come back.

• What flips first: the argument, or the body?
• Which words describe threat, and which describe the actual topic?
• How does he tell a couple to pause without declaring a winner?
• Listen for "you are not the enemy" used as a reset, not as a denial.

💬 重點句 6

先讀英文，想一下意思，再點「翻譯」。按 🔊 聽一次，然後跟著唸。

1. Your brain can file a partner under threat before the sentence is finished.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   你的大腦可以在那句話還沒講完之前，就把伴侶歸檔成威脅。

   file under 是分類。before + 現在式表時間點。
2. The topic is the dishes. The state is danger. Do not confuse them.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   主題是洗碗。狀態是危險。不要把兩件事混在一起。

   三個短句。the state 指神經系統的狀態。
3. If you argue from inside the alarm, you will prosecute a person you love.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   如果你在警報裡爭吵，你會起訴一個你愛的人。

   from inside。prosecute 把吵架講成起訴，語氣重，是教學比喻。
4. A pause is not surrender. A pause is how you get your thinking back.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   暫停不是投降。暫停是你把思考拿回來的方法。

   not A. B. how you... 名詞子句。
5. Name the state out loud, then return to the dishes.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   把狀態講出來，然後回到洗碗這件事。

   祈使句 + then。out loud。
6. Repair is a skill you practice on small nights, so it exists on big ones.
   🔊 唸 翻譯
   修復是你在小夜晚練習的技術，這樣大夜晚才用得上。

   so 表目的的結果。on small nights 是口語複數。

📚 單字 10

點卡片翻面。先猜意思再翻。

🗣️ 俚語與成語 6

🧩 句型練習 3

讀完範例，用自己的事造一句。寫在筆記本或手機備忘錄裡，隔天回頭唸一次。

✅ 理解題 4

看完影片再作答。選一個答案會立刻顯示解釋。

1. What happens if you argue from inside the alarm?
   You solve the dishes fasterYou prosecute a person you loveYour vocabulary gets richerThe threat disappears
   The alarm turns a partner into a case to win.
2. What is a pause, in this lesson?
   SurrenderHow you get your thinking backContemptProof you were right
   The pair of sentences rejects the surrender reading.
3. What does "read into" mean?
   To read aloudTo assign a hidden meaningTo file a legal caseTo cool off
   A late reply becomes a whole story.
4. Why practice repair on small nights?
   Small nights do not matterSo the skill exists when the night is bigBig nights should be avoided foreverThe dishes are the real enemy
   The so-clause is the reason.

💭 用英文想一想

挑一題，用英文寫 3 到 5 句，或對著手機錄一分鐘。不用完美，說出來最重要。

• Describe a moment you filed someone under threat. What was the topic, and what was the state?
• Write a pause sentence you could say without declaring a winner.
• What is one small night this week where you could practice repair on purpose?