Dr. Becky Kennedy Explains What Kids Actually Need to Feel Confident

📅 2026-09-16 · Dr. Becky Kennedy · 新集 · ▶ 影片 · 22 個學習點 · 4 題

先連結再糾正。有自信的孩子不是從不掙扎，是預期會有人陪。

在 YouTube 播放，CC 可開英文字幕。建議先看「聽之前」，看完影片再做理解題。到 YouTube 開啟 ↗

🎯 聽之前

Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy talks with Jay about what children actually need in order to feel confident: connection before correction, and a parent who can stay steady.

What does she say to do before you correct the behavior?
How does she define confidence in a child?
What is the parent's job when the feeling is big?
Listen for short scripts a parent could actually say.

💬 重點句 6

先讀英文，想一下意思，再點「翻譯」。按 🔊 聽一次，然後跟著唸。

Connect before you correct, or the correction will not land.

先連結再糾正，否則糾正不會落地。
land：被接收。or 是「否則」。
A confident child is not a child who never struggles. It is a child who expects to be accompanied.

有自信的孩子不是從不掙扎的孩子。是預期會有人陪的孩子。
accompanied：被陪伴。who 關係子句。
You can hold the limit and hold the child at the same time.

你可以同時握住界線和握住孩子。
hold 兩個受詞，表示界線和情感不必二選一。
Name the feeling before you name the rule.

先說出感覺，再說出規則。
name：把東西講出來、給它一個名字。
Repair is more educational than perfection.

修補比完美更有教育意義。
more ... than 比較。repair：關係破裂後的修補。
Say, "I am here, and the answer is still no."

說：「我在這裡，而答案仍然是不。」
and 把陪伴和拒絕放在同一句，不互相取消。

📚 單字 10

點卡片翻面。先猜意思再翻。

🗣️ 俚語與成語 6

bounce off 片語動詞

to fail to be absorbed; to have no effect · 彈開、沒被聽進去

The lecture bounced off because the child felt alone.

lose your cool 成語

to stop being calm · 沉不住氣

You will lose your cool. Repair is the next line.

in the heat of the moment 成語

while emotions are strongest · 在氣頭上

Do not teach a philosophy in the heat of the moment.

meet someone where they are 成語

to respond to their actual state, not the one you wish for · 在對方所在的地方遇見他

Meet the tears where they are, then talk about the shoes.

set the tone 成語

to establish the emotional atmosphere · 定調

The first sentence sets the tone for the whole bedtime.

children learn what they live 諺語

kids copy the emotional life around them · 孩子學的是他們每天活在其中的樣子

They learn repair because they live inside repair.

🧩 句型練習 3

讀完範例，用自己的事造一句。寫在筆記本或手機備忘錄裡，隔天回頭唸一次。

___ before you ___, or ___ will not ___.

先⋯⋯再⋯⋯，否則⋯⋯不會⋯⋯。

Listen before you lecture, or the lecture will not land.
Sit down before you explain, or the explanation will not land.

✍️ Write a sequence for a hard conversation, with a child or an adult.

You can ___ and ___ at the same time.

你可以同時⋯⋯和⋯⋯。打破二選一。

You can be warm and be firm at the same time.
You can apologize and keep the limit at the same time.

✍️ Name two things you thought were opposites.

Say, "I am ___, and the answer is still ___."

說：「我⋯⋯，而答案仍然是⋯⋯。」

Say, "I love you, and the answer is still no."
Say, "I see you are angry, and the answer is still bedtime."

✍️ Write the script you want in your pocket.

✅ 理解題 4

看完影片再作答。選一個答案會立刻顯示解釋。

What comes before correction?

Without connection, the correction does not land.
A confident child, here, is one who:

Confidence is the expectation of company, not the absence of struggle.
"In the heat of the moment" means:

Heat is the peak of emotion. That is a bad time for a lecture.
Which script matches the lesson?

Presence and the limit share one sentence.

💭 用英文想一想

挑一題，用英文寫 3 到 5 句，或對著手機錄一分鐘。不用完美，說出來最重要。

Write a "connect, then correct" script for a real situation. It can be with a child, a student, or yourself.
Where do you treat two goods as opposites — warmth and a limit, for example?
What does repair sound like in one sentence after you lose your cool?

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